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Can Closures Be Calm and Goodbyes Be Good?

 


You have ended a chapter in your life. It could have been personal or professional. What you said in the end, those last few words, will make all the difference. Did you burn all bridges or create one?

Endings are never easy, but you can still part with grace. In the world of literature, see how Frodo's Farewell in The Lord of the Rings by J.R.R. Tolkien is filled with gratitude and hope- “You cannot always be torn in two. You will have to be one and whole, for many years. You have so much to enjoy and to be, and to do.” Or take a look at Steve Jobs' simple yet impactful resignation letter in 2011- “I have always said that if there ever came a day when I could no longer meet my duties and expectations as Apple’s CEO, I would be the first to let you know. Unfortunately, that day has come.”

Have you ever wondered how people “part on a good note" like how Sussanne and Hrithik have divorced each other and yet continue to holiday with each other in Goa and remain cordial and civil. Can closures be decent?  Can goodbyes ever be good? Can we actually part with grace? The answer is Yes, and it totally depends on what we say in the end.

If anyone, it's for us women to understand how to approach closure and goodbyes gracefully, as we can become volatile, let our heart rule our head and emotions blur our words. Holding on to something that’s no longer working—be it a job, relationship, or expectation—can hinder growth. Goodbyes don’t have to be confrontational or dramatic. 

We must learn to say Goodbye without guilt. Women often feel pressured to nurture relationships at all costs. Understand that prioritizing your mental and emotional well-being isn’t selfish—it’s essential. Not every goodbye is your fault. Sometimes, things end because they’re meant to. Focus on lessons learned instead of obsessing over what you could have done differently. Not all goodbyes will feel “perfect.” Accept imperfect endings. Allow yourself to move forward even if things didn’t end the way you hoped.

Honest, compassionate communication helps both parties part ways with dignity. We need to honour our emotions – it’s okay to feel sadness, anger, or relief. Trust your intuition and the decisions you’ve made, even if the path ahead feels uncertain. Endings often lead to beginnings that align better with your values and goals. And sometimes, saying goodbye can create space for new opportunities, relationships, and personal growth. Focus on what you’re gaining by moving forward rather than what you’re losing.



Recently a business partnership of mine came to an end and my investor told me that -“Let’s take a break until I find a capable team to implement our ideas.” That day I learnt that closures can be done nicely. I may have lost a business partner but I almost gained a friend and, in my eyes, my respect for him grew even more. 
Leaving the door open is the best way to part. After saying goodbye, give yourself space to process the change and move forward. Reflect on the lessons learned and embrace the opportunities that lie ahead.

Ending chapters in life, relationships, or projects can be done gracefully and thoughtfully to avoid leaving a bitter taste. It requires one to be straightforward but kind in communication. Avoid blame or harsh language and focus on "I" statements to express your feelings. Example: “I’ve cherished this journey, but I feel it’s time for me to move on to new challenges.”

Focus on the positive legacy and frame the ending as a transition rather than a termination. Highlight the good memories, growth, or achievements made during the chapter. Example: “What we’ve built together is something I’ll always cherish, and I hope it continues to inspire us both.”

Goodbyes don’t have to be bitter—they can be a celebration of what was shared and a hopeful step toward new beginnings. When approached with kindness, gratitude, and understanding, they become less about loss and more about growth.

 

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